The Essence of Freedom

It’s another incredible day here in Denver.  The sun is shining and the snow capped mountains are still calling my name! I am very happy to be back, and so much looking forward to the next decade 🙂

The most envigorating feeling in life is the essence of freedom. We live in a FREE country. We are FREE to practice the religion we choose. We are FREE to marry the person we choose. We are free to serve our country with honor in the armed forces. We are FREE to make the decisions that are the best for our family. Yet even today, the LGBT community is still not truly FREE. The freedoms of living in a FREE country are still not part of the plan for my community.

However, the pure essence of freedom is freeing yourself to be who you are no matter who you are. To free yourself from the fear of others knowing who you  are and respecting yourself for who you are, are the most crucial steps for inner peace.

The theme for many of the letters that I received over the years was the fear of coming out.  Coming out is a process. It is not a one time thing. You come out every day of your life,  in one way or another. Below is one of the many letters that conveyed how fear was controlling the life of a closeted person.  But, please remember, there are still so many people who are living in fear even today!!

Thanks for reading and remember,

Never Strike Out!

Dear Mr. Pallone,

A friend of mine told me about your book, and suggested I read it. I purchased a copy and read it while vacationing in Vermont.  As I read it, I, thought to myself, “that’s how I’ve felt too”.  In particular, your words of advice:

P168 – Live the truth, don’t live a lie
P266 – Being Trapped – Take off your own mask
The real problem was a fear of exposure
P330 – Have courage and pride and be true to yourself
P331 – Accept me for what I am, a decent human being just like you.

It was as though you were speaking directly to me when I read these words.
After the vacation,  I came out to family and close friends and received unanimous support along with some confusion and questions.  More importantly, I now feel good about myself.  I am getting out a little, find and checking out discussion and networking groups and making some friends. Thanks to you I was motivated to join a 150 mile bike tour to raise money for children with aids. 



    • Jenni
    • January 5, 2010

    Dave – I truly enjoy reading your blog and seeing how much you’ve motivated and inspired people as shown in their letters. Keep sending the positive messages out to the world!

      • Dave Pallone
      • January 5, 2010

      Thanks so much for your kind words…Please spread the word, so others can read the letters.

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